You can remodel your kitchen. You can remodel your man cave. And hey, you can even remodel your pooch’s doghouse while you’re at it. But if you’re embarking on a journey toward the land of new countertops and wall-to-wall carpeting with your significant other, there’s one thing you may not want to remodel in the process: YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
After all, there may be disagreements. You may have differing expectations for the finished product. You may both experience an unwelcomed amount of stress, not to mention a staggering amount of bills. It’s no wonder that, according to a recent survey on the impact home renovations can have on couples, 46 percent of respondents called the experience “frustrating.” And it gets worse: 12 percent have even considered separating or divorcing during the process.
You and your partner may find relationship woes to be inevitable while remodeling, too. Might I recommend you take a peek through these three steps to maintaining a bit of bliss amidst your home renovations? Take a look:
Before you get started on that frilly living room you’ve always dreamed of, slow down and stop to consider your partner. Would they appreciate that chaise lounge (that’s only for looking, not for sitting) as much as you might? And if you’re about to toss your beau’s favorite bowling trophies that simply won’t match your new décor, shouldn’t you consult them first?
Are you thinking considerate thoughts? You might want to, considering one in five respondents made significant decisions in the remodeling process without consulting their partner – even when it comes to major choices, like paint colors or appliances. Another fifth of the respondents admitted to tossing a partner’s item without their consent. Please, think about it first – and do it together.
Talk About It
You’ve thought about it together, but now it’s time to talk about it – HONESTLY. After all, you’ve got major money-related decisions to make, and it’s best to consider sticking to a budget you’ve made up front. The more the project sticks to its original financial track, the less likely you are to encounter those “You bought WHAT!?” and “HOW MUCH!?” questions that may lead to arguments.
You’ll find that talking about your budget up front gives you the ability to split those bills easier along the way. When you’re collaborating on the cash front, it’s more likely you’ll compromise on other matters – like design schemes – going forward, too.
Enjoy the Experience
Remodeling might be tough, but it certainly can be fun! Take this as an opportunity to discover how you work best together, as well as to let each other’s natural talents shine. You might be surprised to see just how good your mate is with a chainsaw, and he or she may be just as delighted to have your painting expertise.
And trust me, the experience – whether or good or bad – will all be worth it in the end. According to the same survey, four out of five respondents said they felt more relaxed at home following the project, and 41 percent noticed an increase in their level of happiness with their significant other. You see, it won’t be so bad after all!
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