As I count down the days to my wedding, I am increasingly more thankful for the people that have been helping me plan along the way. There are so many details that go into planning a wedding that if I tried to do it alone, I would go crazy. (Props to you if you’re already married and you did do it alone.)
So in order to make your wedding planning easier here are the people you will need.
I put this first because it is the first person you think about when you imagine the people you might need. Depending on the planner, they can pretty much plan everything for you. From sitting down with you to dream up your color scheme to executing all of the details of your dream day, they are there for it all. A good wedding planner will also try to help you stay on budget. They can generally give you a ballpark estimate of how much it will take to turn your dreams into reality. If you’re super busy, a wedding planner can be a great tool for you. I don’t have a planner, but I do have a couple coordinators.
The coordinator is similar to a wedding planner, but they may not handle quite as much. If you want to save money, you can get by with just a coordinator. You can have a coordinator for your ceremony, a coordinator for your reception, or a one who does both. I have one for each, but they are both named Courtney…“Courtney the Coordinator,” it just works. The coordinator mainly makes sure everything goes smoothly they day of the wedding, and they might also help plan several details. For the ceremony they help to plan out the order of events, they run the rehearsal and make sure you cover all of your bases with set-up, tear down, and payment. At the reception, they should take care of the food, the set-up, and all the small details that you probably didn’t even know were relevant. Really, I have found my coordinators to be an invaluable resource.
Maid of Honor
There’s more to being a maid of honor than giving a nice speech at the reception. Since the maid of honor is usually very close to the bride, they take the conn on crisis control the day of the wedding. She will probably be able to pick up on things that could be bothering the bride that others might not. This role also includes planning showers and a bachelorette party. It could also mean helping the bride tie ribbons or stuff envelopes…pretty much whatever the bride needs. Brides—try not to overwhelm your maid of honor. I am sure that all of your bridesmaids are willing to help. Spread out the jobs so that each person has something to do and nobody feels overworked.
Okay, I made up this role—but I promise it exists. This isn’t someone you hire, but it’s someone that naturally comes along and makes a world of difference. That person in your life –your mom, a friend, an aunt or your fiancé’s mom – who’s willing to go above and beyond for you to make you feel special. Chances are you know more than one person like this. You will need someone just to listen to you and give you some TLC when you are stressed. It could be as simple as a regular phone call to check in, or making you a batch of fat-free cookies (because you don’t want to spoil your wedding diet). If you know someone getting married soon, take the opportunity to be that person for her. If you are a bride, recognize and thank that person.
Utilize these people. They are there to make the wedding planning easier. It might be hard for you to relinquish control, but if you try to make everything perfect, you will only be disappointed. There will be things that go wrong, but the more people you have to help you, the smoother it will go.